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How To Transform Conflict Into Closeness?

Simple Lessons For Effective Communication
If you have recently ended a relationship and are about to begin a new one, or if you are currently struggling with your partner, please consider the following powerful communication messages that I reminded my couple of.
  • Feeling safe with your partner means freedom from being insulted, ignored, rejected, unloved, or in any way diminished.
  • Nothing can be solved unless you listen to your partner and create a feeling of safety.
  • Talk about the problem like you are a team. If you don’t communicate in some way that you have heard each other and considered their concerns, there will be no cooperation.
  • Hurting your partner is hurting yourself (As Gandhi said, “An eye for an eye leaves the whole world blind.”)
  • Dirty fighting includes: (How many apply to you?)
  • Personal insults
  • Bringing up history to prove a point
  • One-upping your partner
  • Threatening to leave or divorce
  • Lying / half-truths
How To Stop Making Things Worse
In any love relationship, safety is essential. Without a sense of safety, people are likely to attack each other. Why? Because the minute one’s sense of well-being is threatened they will need to protect themselves by attacking back.
If two people can’t trust each other to not inflict harm on their well-being, it’s impossible to work on their relationship.
IT’S THAT SIMPLE.

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